Last week, we learned the basics of sucking dick. For all of you jedi masters ready to take the next step in advanced blowjobs, see below.
Let’s talk deep throating, especially if we’re feeling adventurous! This is an act in which we take our special someone’s penis (or dildo, fingers, etc.) into our throat to create a tighter sensation and give our partner the feeling of complete insertion. By covering more of the penis by the mouth, we’re enveloping more sensitive tissue in a warm, moist orifice that can provide a lot of sexy stimulation to our partner. Being able to thrust our partner’s phallus in and out of the throat can provide extra steamy sensations for the head of the penis, which is a most sensitive area.
While deep throating can be pleasurable, it can also cause the providing partner (the one sucking the dee) to gag, which can be uncomfortable and feel like choking. Before trying to take the dee in too deeply your first time, make sure the partner receiving head knows to keep their pelvis thoroughly un-thrusting during your trial, just so the sucker, if you will, doesn’t get surprised mid-dive. One should test the deep throating waters slowly and shouldn’t expect it to work perfectly the first time, or ever.
So now we’ve given head. We have come to a crossroads. As Shakespeare proverbially said, “to spit or to swallow? That is the question.” From a health standpoint, it doesn’t really matter what you do with the semen once it enters your mouth; any infections the spermies might be packing will already have come into contact with your soft pallet, a mucus membrane and superhighway for pathogens.
However, there are other reasons we might decide to spit or swallow. Let’s face it—sometimes semen tastes bad. Many people claim that if they swallow, the sometimes-unpleasant flavor remains in their mouth for the rest of the day. If you happen to be the receiver of the beejay and your partner is reluctant to swallow your seed, see if you can change up your diet to make the experience less bitter, pun intended.
Beer and coffee are offenders when it comes to bodily fluids, so maybe stay away from them for a day or so before getting head. Similarly, diets high in meats and including cabbage-variety veggies (asparagus, broccilli, etc.) can make one’s jizz taste less appealing. Conversely, fruits with high water content, and hydration in general, can make the tang less potent and even yummy.
Our partners all prefer different things, from spitting and swallowing to the most basic techniques, everyone gets off on distinct actions. So pay attention! Did your partner gasp when you licked the head of his peen, or moan when you dragged your hand across his inner thighs? If you allow those cues to lead you and ask for input, you can gain expertise in your partner’s frisky fellatio thirsts.
Effective communication can vastly improve your skill and your significant other’s pleasure. Although it can seem a little uncomfortable to ask what he did and didn’t enjoy, you just had his most intimate body part in your mouth, so hopefully you can feel confident about this one. If not, sneak it into the conversation. Start with something like, “I hope you thought that was as fun as I did! Any suggestions for next time?”
But, Alex, you ask, what if I didn’t think it was fun? That’s completely normal, and you’re right; you shouldn’t lie to your partner if you don’t enjoy giving head. Maybe it can become a treat for special occasions, maybe it can be reciprocity for a performance on his part, or maybe it was a one-time thing. Just remember, a first experience is often nerve-wracking and less pleasant than the same experience may be as you become more comfortable with it. It might get more fun with practice, but maybe it won’t.
Remember, many people adore sucking dick, so if you’re one of them, take advantage! As stated last week, enthusiasm is key, and your partner knowing that you have a taste for blowjobs can be an even bigger turn-on than the act itself. If you find yourself to be a connoisseur, embrace it. Hone your skills and become an expert. It never hurt anyone to give or receive mind-blowing head.
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