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Tuesday, January 26, 2021

College 101: Moving On After Losing A Loved One

Moving On After Losing A Loved One

Death is an incredible tragedy. It’s an unavoidable part of life, and yet it leaves us feeling helpless and broken when we have to say goodbye to a loved one. Whether death is sudden or expected after a long medical condition, it’s always incredibly hard to say goodbye and move forward with life. But moving on is also a part of death, and it’s surely what our loved ones would have wanted for us.

Don’t be ashamed to feel happy.

Happiness is another central theme in life, but it can be hard to let yourself show or feel this powerful emotion in the wake of a loss. Often, family members mourning the death of a sibling, parent, or grandparent feel ashamed to be happy. This can last for weeks, or months, or even years after the loss. Some mourners might even feel this emotional weight for a lifetime. But understanding that it’s alright to feel happy during the high points of life that are still to come is important. Many of the happiest things that will happen to us during the wild, twisting course of our lives come on the heels of uncertainty or pain. Learning to mix these emotions is one of the crucial steps to recovering after a major loss like this. One way to cope is to think of how your loved ones would celebrate the wins with you. In this way, you can relish in the great things that come your way while remembering the great times you had with your loved one at the same time whether they be in the years that follow, or even just the next day.

Consider moving.

If the pain of living in the same place where you spent so many important days with your loved one is becoming unbearable, then considering a move is a good way to navigate the loss you are experiencing. Hiring a mover like Solomon & Sons Relocation can get your belongings packed and ready to ship in record time, and have you on the road quickly. Your new home may be just the thing you need to give you peace of mind during troubling times. Remembering your loved one doesn’t require holding on to every physical thing he or she interacted with, so parting with a home might be the perfect way to utilize the assets you have developed (possibly alongside your husband, wife, or parent,) and honor their memory while helping to boost your own road to recovery. A mover is an affordable option for making this change of scenery a reality.

Take your loved one’s wishes into consideration.

In the will, your loved one has likely left instructions for their final arrangements, inheritance, and other similar requests. Finding a funeral home that can deal with a wake, cremation services, or traditional burial is important for honoring the person’s wishes. In your time of need, you should take care to honor their requests and follow their instructions to the letter in order to reduce any feelings of stress that may accompany trying to decipher new wishes or changes to the plan. If your loved one wanted a cremation, there are many services available all around the country that can give them a dignified send-off for a fraction of the price of a routine burial. Because of this many people are opting for this funeral service instead, in order to save their family money and stress. After a cremation, the ashes are placed in an urn and you can keep your loved one’s memory close at hand with the delicate placement of this container in your home or wherever they would have wanted it.

Moving on can feel like climbing a mountain. It’s tough to say goodbye, and even tougher to continue going after you have. But time heals these wounds. Keep your loved one’s memory sacred and always cherish the time you had together in order to get through this time of need.

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